Dave Grohl Talks Dealing With Grief Following Kurt Cobain's 1994 Suicide: "Our Whole World Was Turned Upside Down"
Dave Grohl is opening up about the devastating loss of one of his best friends to suicide, the famous Nirvana frontman, Kurt Cobain. Grohl is getting real about his stages of grief.
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The Foo Fighters frontman and drummer for the notorious '90s grunge band Nirvana is opening up about that devastating day in 1994 when he learned about Kurt Cobain's suicide.
Appearing for an interview with Apple Music, Grohl reveals how powerful the stages of grief were, and how it influenced the Foo Fighters' debut album in 1995.
"Most of the songs on that first record had been around for a while," he said.
"'This Is A Call’ is probably the one song that… it had a different feel. It was a bit more uplifting than the other stuff that I’d written before," he shared.
He continued, "And especially coming after Kurt’s death, ‘This Is A Call’, it was like renewal or a reawakening where I actually found joy in playing and writing. So it’s strange because when you’re in that moment and you’re in a period of loss or grief or mourning, it’s like you pick up an instrument and that just spills out."
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Grohl also went on to share how writing his songs became not only therapeutic, but a way to let everything spill out of him.
"It serves this like an exorcism where it feels good because you’re purging a lot of these feelings, but then it’s also a bummer. Every time I pick up a pen or a guitar and I’d start writing something, it was just depressing. And after a while, I’m like, ‘Oh God. Is that all I got?’ And then ‘This Is A Call’, something like that really… it just felt okay," he said.
He continued, "Even a song like ‘Good Grief’. I think that one might’ve come later. That one was maybe after Kurt had passed away. I’m sure it was, at least the lyrics were. But that was meant to represent the joy of sadness in a way, just feeling good about feeling bad."
Dave Grohl reflects on grief
Grohl also went on to share how after Cobain's passing, he needed to take some time away from people, and really reflect on everything that he was feeling.
"After Kurt passed away, there was a period of everyone just hiding from the world and our whole world was turned upside down. So there was grief, there was mourning. We all rallied together. I remember hanging out with [Nirvana bassist] Krist Novoselic and the two of us making sure that we were okay," he reflected.
"And then I did a little bit of travelling," he said. "I took a trip to the U.K. I don’t know, I just did a lot of driving around and thinking. And eventually, I started getting calls from people to ask if I wanted to play drums with them or join another band, and I just didn’t see that happening at the time."
Despite not believing at the time he could move on to another band, Grohl decided to give it a shot. He explained how he was able to move forward saying, "I’d always come home from tours and recorded songs by myself, but that feeling was gone. I didn’t really want to write or even listen to music, much less join a band and play in one," he started.
He continued, "So it was strange when your life is just pulled out from under you like that. I don’t think anyone really thought much about what came next. You were stuck in that moment. So eventually, I just pulled myself off the couch and thought, ‘Okay, I’ve always loved playing music and I’ve always loved writing and recording songs for myself. So I feel like I need to do that just for myself."
Thank goodness he did, as now 25 years later, the world knows the Foo Fighters as one of the greatest rock bands in the 21st century. Happy Anniversary!